I miss my childhood.
Everyone has their reasons for missing what they have left behind. I have my
reasons too. I miss the simplicity of my life back then.
We never had maids who
cooked for us. It was always my ma and my grandma who cooked. Even now.
Back then, I never
counted calories when I ate. Nothing was allowed to be wasted. Whatever was on
the plate had to go in the stomach. That was the rule. Not that hungry? Take a
smaller serving.
Meals used to start
with bitter melon (it was supposed to cleanse your system) back then. Then came
daal, rice, vegetables, and fish or meat. There was always salad on the side.
And curd (with sugar) to end the meal. Sounds like a feast everyday of the
year, twice a day, doesn’t it?
But I was still thin
and fit and active. And never worried about putting on weight.
They tell me now that I
should skip all that and eat yoghurt or salads for lunch. Skimmed milk. No
sugar. I am serious.
I never worried about
working out during childhood. There were no gyms to start with. But then, I
would walk back from school sometimes, without taking the rickshaw. It was not
to burn calories (the first time I learned the word “calorie” was from my
middle school Physics textbook). It was to save two rupees. I used to get kicks
out of saving money.
In college, sometimes I
would skip the bus and walk home, so that I could spend more time with my best
friend (There was no rush to go home to Facebook and emails). The smoke,
honking, crowd, piles of cow dung on the roads, and waterlog below the bridge
by the metro station did not matter then. All we cared about was to spend extra
time with each other. She lived ten houses from mine. So we would walk until I
reached my home, and then we would talk some more while I walked her home, and
then she would walk me home again. This would continue for the evening, until
one of our moms screamed at us. There was still no gym to go to, and it did not
matter.
Now, there is a gym. And
it is free with a student id. And I always go after 5 pm (parking on campus is free after 5 pm). This is so that I can
drive the 5 minute route instead of walking, and then spend the next 2 hours
working out. I did not have a car in Calcutta, but I was better at my math. I
don’t know why I have never walked to the gym. Bad habit, perhaps.
As a kid, I drank two
glasses of milk everyday. Morning and evening. They said it was good for brain
and bone development. I never worried about BST or hormones in milk. Milk never
came packaged. The doodhwaali always delivered milk in person. True, she
smelled of buffaloes (that made me gag every time she would pull my cheeks) and
mixed an inordinate amount of water with milk. But that was the end of the
complexity. Milk and water. Sometimes more milk, sometimes more water. She is
gone now, it is all packaged milk that comes from somewhere I don’t know. I
stand in front of the aisles, clueless. There are dozens of varieties to choose
from. Whole milk. 1%. 2%. They tell me that 2% is actually not 2%, and whole
milk is not 100%. More mathematical complexities. Then there is almond milk. Soy
milk. Fat free milk. Vitamin D enriched milk (doesn’t all milk have Vitamin
D?). Milk cartons in yellow and red and blue, each signifying something it has
or does not have. You don’t even have to boil the milk, or worry about milk
spilling on the stovetop, like my mom did and sometimes spent hours cleaning up.
Those complications are gone now. Those have been substituted by newer
complications.
As children, we never
stored ice creams and cold drinks at home. There was a videogame parlor in the
small town where I grew up, called Relax Parlor. Back in the eighties, it was
the only shop of its kind in town. The shop is probably long gone now. There,
if we had been good children, we would sometimes go with parents and have ice
creams. Either vanilla or strawberry. Not a whole lot to choose from. Either a
small cup or a large cup (no mediums). Not a whole lot of cup sizes to choose
from either. It was probably rupees 3 and rupees 5. But then, we did not go
there every day. Not even every Friday night (there was no concept of Friday
nights back then, the only interesting thing we did Friday evening was watch
Chitramala on Doordarshan). We went to Relax Parlor once every 2-3 months. Our
freezer wasn’t stuffed with mocha and caramel and rum and raisin ice creams.
Life was less complicated that way. One did not have to worry about losing
weight, because there was none to gain.
They ask me to do
strange things these days. They say I should remove the egg yolk, it has high
cholesterol. They say I should eat everything brown- brown rice and brown
sugar. They live and die by quinoa. They say I should eat salads for lunch.
Just salad. They say I should buy fruits and vegetables that are organic. I did
not worry about all this back then. I ate whatever vegetables ma cooked. I
would ask her to save the peels so that I could feed the cow; that used to be
an exciting part of my day back then, not hopping pubs or doing a shopping
marathon, but feeding the cow. I fed the cow, the cow gave us milk. Such simple
things in life brought such joy.
These days, they ask me
to skip a component of what I eat. When I order a dosa, they ask me to skip the
coconut chutney (which is the favorite part of the dosa for me). They ask me to
drink the green coconut water and throw the malai (which is another favorite).
They say mangoes have high calories, and so do bananas. It’s bad for the
health. I never remember ma ever saying so. In summers, we ate mangoes and
litchis by the kilo. We ate bananas by the dozen. Apples were meant to be eaten
only during fever, those were expensive. Surprisingly, no one ever told me that
I was a fat kid. If anything, I was tall, healthy, seldom fell sick, never missed my period, and had thick hair, clear skin and pink nails. These days, I
can eat Japanese sushi for lunch and Mexican burritos for dinner. For variety,
I can eat Italian, Ethiopian, and Chinese. We did not have this luxury back
then. But we never worried about weight gain or weight loss.
When I was in my early
twenties, I suddenly got this whim one day that my weight should be less than
my height (If I am x’y” tall, I should weigh less than xy kg). It was a whim
without logic. I reduced what I ate, and shed 5 kilos in a few months. I had no
gym to go to, and skipping meals at home was not allowed. However, my body was
so obedient that I could easily lose weight with a little bit of cutting down
on food.
I have tried losing
weight for the last six months, and have exactly lost two pounds.
Let me tell you about
the gaining saga before I tell you about the losing struggle. I don’t know how
or why, but in the last 6 years of my US stay, I have put on 44 pounds. The
problems of the first world countries are also first world. I never knew
depression was an ailment back in India. I mean, where was the time to get
depressed? I never knew that excess rain and lack of sunshine can cause
depression (people from Seattle swear by SAD, or Seasonal Affective
Depression). As a kid, I never knew weight gain is an issue. I sometimes think
that my childhood problems paled compared to my present day problems. For me,
resources are plenty now, but I just don’t know what to choose from. My fridge
is stocked with stuff I never grew up eating- cheese spread, marmalade, apple
sauce, and chicken broth. Everything comes in packets, and everything can be
frozen. This includes frozen chapatti, frozen dosa, and frozen fruits. And they
tell me to eat stuff that defies everything I have learned so far. They ask me
to stick to juices for one meal a day (wonder why God gave me teeth). They ask
me to skip milk because recent research says that milk does not help in Vitamin
D absorption. They ask me to eat Greek yoghurt. But then when I visit their
houses, they serve me pizzas, cheesecakes, ice creams and brownies. They try to
refill my glass with soda despite me telling them that water is just fine. They
tell me that the fizz in the soda is good for digestion.
But you know what?
After 6 years of struggling to get back in shape, I have decided to ignore them
all. I have no faith in what they say anymore. Yes, I now eat my coconut
chutney and green coconuts. I eat bananas and eggs (yellow and all) for
breakfast and rice for lunch. But I don’t hog like a pig. I am not going to
survive on green liquids and juices. I have given up soda, pizzas, and alcohol
long ago. I don’t eat out for more than once a week. And when someone asks me
to go out for dinner with them, I am in a dilemma. I can either spend my
evening eating outside food, damaging my health and wasting money, or I can
spend the same time working out.
I go to gym 4-5 times a
week. There, I don’t just do cardio, I do my weights too. Sometimes, I dance
Zumba to the beats of music. Those are happy evenings for me. Strangely, even
after months of hard work, I have lost exactly 2 pounds. But it is okay. I feel
more fit now, I sleep better, I digest my food well, I can see the outline of
my biceps forming, I am more aware of what I eat, and I no longer like to hang
out with people who do not work out. I can save the juice and porridge for when
I am old and have lost my teeth and wisdom. Losing weight is not my aim, I can
do that by starving myself to death. I just wish to stay fit, active, and
healthy. I don’t want to die of cancer. I don’t want to die of cardiac
problems. They say exercising reduces the chances of getting both.
I still don’t do a lot
of things that I should. I still don’t go to bed early, spend hours in front of
the laptop, and just cannot give up my craving for sugar. I don’t have “a”
sweet tooth, all my teeth crave sweets. Sometimes I am so hungry and craving
for sugar at night that I gorge on watermelons (I argue that it is better than
eating cakes and brownies at night). Commitment to eating healthy and staying
fit is a constant work in progress.
You know what makes me
sad? It makes me sad that I have wasted precious years of my twenties. I was
living in the US and earning well. I had the freedom to wear
whatever I wished to from shorts to tank tops (all that is not allowed back at
home), had the money to buy designer clothes and shoes, look sexy, look pretty,
and not hide behind loose-fitting clothes. I had no worries about graying hair and ageing
skin. But I never counted these blessings. Ever heard that hindsight is 20-20?
Following others
without logic has done me more harm than good. Going back to my childhood would
have been ideal, but not everyone can afford the luxury of ma’s cooking and
totally avoiding packaged food living in a country like the US. However, it is
never too late to start afresh, to take a baby step towards progress, is it?
sunshine
