tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post9186576594000917106..comments2023-07-27T04:04:52.613-07:00Comments on sunshine: Othering the non-mother and the lesser-mothersunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01592553581294142760noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-59759473649368030442016-04-21T19:32:48.200-07:002016-04-21T19:32:48.200-07:00itssowful, FB has made superstars, celebrities, an...itssowful, FB has made superstars, celebrities, and glamour dolls of everyone these days. :)<br /><br />Argentyne, it's the herd mentality. You do it because others do it, and you need to keep a cool image. I envy you for having the strength to renounce FB. I still haven't gotten there. :)sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592553581294142760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-26426391675742568932016-04-20T18:55:12.821-07:002016-04-20T18:55:12.821-07:00Mom of two here. I very recently deactivated my fb...Mom of two here. I very recently deactivated my fb account because I was wasting way too much time on some groups. I can't believe that people actually participate in stuff like this. What is wrong with people? Also, after one comment I made on a religion-bashing post that turned into a big fb-comments-hate-spiral, I wondered whether there was any point to declaring an opinion on fb. Would I, in my sane mind, ever speak out loud in front of a room full of these 'friends' whose other 'friends' could also hear me? Anyway, I digress. I just cannot digest that people would participate in this nonsense. Argentynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15380914569182985269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-91072259510300453592016-04-20T11:47:23.538-07:002016-04-20T11:47:23.538-07:00Interesting! recently few of my cousins/friends ha...Interesting! recently few of my cousins/friends had their second child and everytime I spoke to them...it seemed like they were managing a school or the toughest job on earth lol... I think its too much self loathing and hype these days that simple/natural things are so exaggerated, thanks to I/Me/MyselfBook.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11069598507546427849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-61513179918599992732016-04-20T07:58:33.634-07:002016-04-20T07:58:33.634-07:00Ramya, thank you for sharing this. You bring in a ...Ramya, thank you for sharing this. You bring in a very important perspective. That the challenges for women is not always about the challenges of balancing work and children. Would you be willing to write a post about it? I'd love to read it. :) And I wholeheartedly agree with your point.sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592553581294142760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-54922825117406702772016-04-20T07:56:56.776-07:002016-04-20T07:56:56.776-07:00yamini, I have a few friends who chose to be child...yamini, I have a few friends who chose to be childless (although married or partnered) just because they do not want children. No specific reason or justification. They just don't want something, and they said, "No thank you!". I already see a ray of hope. :)<br /><br />PS: It is not about being or not being a mom. It is about embracing a life that you want, making your choices, and not following the herd.sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592553581294142760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-40601632935628237202016-04-20T07:54:42.265-07:002016-04-20T07:54:42.265-07:00Padmanabhan, true! Padmanabhan, true! sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592553581294142760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-75998256629284846872016-04-20T07:53:54.015-07:002016-04-20T07:53:54.015-07:00loop, I never said that. However, there are differ...loop, I never said that. However, there are different ways of answering your question.<br /><br />1. Have never been a mom, so I don't know.<br />2. Is it any more challenging than the number of other things we do? Why specifically glorify motherhood then?<br />3. The FB post was about the challenge of posting a picture. What's so challenging about posting a picture?sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592553581294142760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-66784480476694902332016-04-20T05:32:35.141-07:002016-04-20T05:32:35.141-07:00am not good at words. but all I can say is I agree...am not good at words. but all I can say is I agree. something totally unrelated, but I wanted to share this with you. on women's day in my office, they arranged for a session where they had invited a senior women director to talk. and the whole time she was talking abt working women and challenges and the whole discussion was about married women. being single and well past the age of marriage, that really frustrated me. challenges of working women always mean married women. the society thinks that single women don't face any challenges. seemed so absurd. I was happy the session ended. your post for some reason reminded me of that.<br /><br />Regards<br />Ramyarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11512160531792911512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-45305947256008724992016-04-19T23:21:56.580-07:002016-04-19T23:21:56.580-07:00A dear friend who took this challenge, posted pict...A dear friend who took this challenge, posted pictures with her dog. I am talking about an incredibly smart, well traveled, well adjusted grown up here. Made me realize how deep rooted the belief that 'you have achieved everything if you are a mother (even if to a dog)' is, in the society at large.<br /><br />May be our generation first needs to stop doing things just for the heck of it.Nightflierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03120938612629011924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-21760038516709341512016-04-18T13:18:34.881-07:002016-04-18T13:18:34.881-07:00The way I see it, one can't use reason when th...The way I see it, one can't use reason when there is too much emotion. This thing is something very emotional to them apparently. And people need something or the other to make them feel good about themselves and this happens to fill that void nicely. So if they perceive something as a criticism of that, they are going to get defensive and lash out. human nature I guess.Padmanabhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12965413179690087952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14545899.post-44245716998902161182016-04-18T11:50:31.237-07:002016-04-18T11:50:31.237-07:00I broadly agree with your views, but I want to und...I broadly agree with your views, but I want to understand something better. Are you saying that, a "normal" motherhood is not a challenge, at all?<br />loophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12666478756209475438noreply@blogger.com